I'm one of those studiers. But sometimes the other person takes longer than me. I specifically say "reading cards" or something so ppl don't think I'm AFK. Also, it's nice to have a friendly opening. Most people respond positively to that. For me, I like finding out the split at the same time 3/4 and 2/5 sometimes make a difference in how I start the game. IDK - that first wait isn't that bad in my mind and it goes pretty fast after.